Thought I would handle this ok, but now I am not so sure

So my 11 year old son is going to Illinois for two weeks to visit his dad and family. He leaves in 3 days. We have a very close relationship (my boy and i) because we have been through some pretty serious stuff together. We have never been apart. His dad usually comes up here to visit. At first I was really excited for him and for me (no fighting with his sister for two weeks, woohoo!) but as the day grows nearer, I am starting to freak out and cling to him pretty badly. I have no idea what I am going to do without our morning cuddle time and not only that, my two year old and him are attached at the hip. I mean they are BEST FRIENDS and practically spend every waking moment together. I have no idea how I am going to handle this. Every time I even think about him leaving I start to cry.

Just keep reminding youself that your goal is to grow an independent adult! Now is a good time for some independence.

It will be hard for you...but independance is healthy...for both of you I totally agree with the statement above mine. Good luck!

Its good for him to know that you love him THAT much...He will remember this and it will be a touchstone in the rougher teen years to come, and he won't want to disappoint that love! (From a Mom of 12--been there!--a few times)

awwhhh he is getting his wings. I am sure you did a fabulous job with him and thanks to you he will be able to make smart decisions. The girls will be ok, might hurt once he walks out the door, but he will be back.

I have an 11 year old stepson that lives with us every other weekend (Or pretty much even ever he wants to stop by) Our 3 year old daughter hates it whenever he has to go back to his Mom's but talks about cant wait to see him again and all the fun they will soon have. Then when he does come back it is a beautiful treat.

You will be fine. Hard....yes, but you will make it and he will love you forever for letting him be independent when he needs it.

Good Luck!

Thanks, guys. Would you believe I welled up just reading these?

And Anneil.... 12 kids? How are you still sane? LOL

And Anneil.... 12 kids? How are you still sane? LOL

I was thinking the same thing. I have 3 and they run circles around me.

You must be a very strongwilled woman.

A braver woman than me, that's for sure!

I don't think I've ever really been sane....hehe

Set up a special time for him to be abble to call you while he away. Eve if it's only for a few minutes...like your "secret closet" time. Not only will it help you but it will help him deal with missing you and being away from home.

I think I would die. I can't imagine my son leaving me for that long. Lots of prayers all day and night would be the only way. It's seperation anxiety, I get it too when my son leaves for any extended period of time. *Huggs* to you . Keep yourself busy momma

ooo Im starting to fret now! You mean LB wont always be right here clinging to my legs and climbing up my back?!

I agree totally with the prayers!

Short quick story: Had my fourth son working in Brazil helping to set up a school/home for street kids in the country (they were being targeted for drive-bys). He could not renew his visa any more & was scheduled to return to the US. I felt really burdened for him for several weeks, and kept shooting up prayers whenever I thought of him. "Unfortunately he missed his flight by 10 minutes. The flight he would've been on, had he been on time went down in the everglades, with no survivors. Prayer rocks!
It can be there when we can't!

wow. thats very scary.

Well the day has come. His father will be here at noon and they fly out at 5. I am NOT doing well. I am upset, angry, nauseous, nervous, sad and all around freaking the heck out. I should have just told him no when the idea was first presented.