Ever wished you didn't move?

My daughter and I moved two months ago from an area we had lived in most of our life. Now we are missing it and our friends, stores, just the area.
We moved because of the rent and haven't been able to make many friends where we are as of yet.
We did two Farmer's Markets in the last two weeks and made very little money.
We thought that with the rent being less here that we we finally have some money to expand our business. But it's not working out that way, groceries and gas is higher.
The manager at the last Farmer's Market told me that our prices were to high for people in the this area, $3. and up is to high?
I paid a $10. fee to set up and didn't even make that back.
My daughter, Amber is going supposely(sp) to a better school, but so far she is bored and hasn't made many friends. Most of the kids have gone to the school since they started in 1st. grade. She feels left out, and she is trying.
Oh, I don't know what to do, I can't seem to get over missing everyone and the things we use to do down there. Here we don't do much of anything, except practice painting, and looking for more gigs.
Winter is coming fast and I'm afraid of having a long lonely winter in the cold.
I can't even afford to move, my ex landlord won't give me back my security deposit. ugh!
So sorry for venting , just wondered what any of you would do or did in this case.
Back to practicing for Halloween.....

If you didn't move too far away, maybe you can still paint shop etc. in your old neighborhood....

Yes! I've moved a few times and been totally miserable to begin with. It takes time to get connected in a new community and establish friendships and business bookings. Give it time, get out of the house and deliberately put yourself in situations where you can meet people and strike up conversations. I've found being upfront about being new to town and not knowing anyone when I meet new people gives them a good opportunity to reach out in some way. This is more true of small towns where people know that they're going to see each other around and 'do life together'.

Its hard, I know. We just moved here 3 years ago... I don't know your faith, but I would look at plugging in at a church, or a community center, rec center, etc. If you start out going to a couple events, dinners, kids things etc, and then volunteering a little, I bet you will meet people in no time. Good luck. I really hope it works out for you!

Yes, I'm getting tied in with local groups it still doesn't feel like home or very welcoming. I'm just having a off day probably.
Thanks to all who wrote.
J

As the wife of a retired Navy man I understand & know moving. We've moved every 2 yrs for the 1st 15 yrs of our marriage. It made making friends hard.
Some things I discovered:
1)It takes time to fit in to the new environment. Sometimes more than 1 year.
2) wallowing in my sadness & feeling self pity for what I lost only made me feel worse & didn't help me or my family
3) go into each move w/ expectations on what God was going to do bigger & better for me & my family.
4) Find new friends for me & for my family. I would find a healthy, growing, outgoing church & get active & involved. Do they have group meetings? Do they serve on outreach teams? Missions? Can my kids make friends outside of Sundays?
5) Pursue the things we are into(I'd look for classes where my kids could do what they like or sports, etc). Can I make friends w/ the moms of these kids? Or look into classes I'd be interested in taking.

It takes a while to restart in a new area, but it really can be a great adventure! I'm praying you can find the joy in this new season in your life!

I'm fine everyone, I was just having a bad day. I went to a Tai Chi Class and booked another gig.
So thank you for all the advice, but I'm fine now other the rainy weather.
God Bless you all!!

I have got to say - I'm so glad you were just having a bad day!
Reason being I am considering a move myself.
I have grown up in this city all my life and your first post pretty much summed up all my fears....

As I'm not religious and fight against forming friendships with other parents as 98% of the time the only thing we have in common is kids....
I'm very friendly but never allow anyone to get close to me, so I have a lot of people that consider me a good friend and very few that I could say the same of.
We don't have to move, but my mum has a permanent condition which leaves her unable to care for herself, and the pull of a better lifestyle outside of the big smoke is getting to strong to fight.
The idea of starting a new school for my daughter, re-building my business, and my man starting a new career is beyond scary to me.

Linda I don't know how you did it - it's especially hard on the kids... I saw this with my sister - she moves every 12months to 2 yrs.

I figure if I want the big rewards I have to take some big chances.
So thank-you for letting us know it was just a bump in the road and that your doing ok.... gives me great hope.

I'm glad you're feeling better.

Tash, it was hard & my "list" was something I learned after doing things the wrong way a few times. It was more an attitude that if I didn't make it a positive experience then it wasn't going to be. I grew up very negative & came from a very negative family. I had to learn to be positive & fight to keep positive sometimes.